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Couples choose surrogacy for many different reasons. Credit: Pink Sherbet Photography

The journey to a surrogacy agency looks very different for each couple or individual we serve. Sometimes that road is short and smooth. Other times it is a long and wearying process. The decision to seek the assistance of a surrogacy agency is an incredibly personal one. For those couples who want children but cannot safely get pregnant or are having difficulty conceiving, surrogacy offers them a chance to create the family they always wanted.

Gay Couples

Surrogacy can be a great option for homosexual couples who, for obvious reasons, cannot get pregnant on their own. An additional benefit of surrogacy is that one partner can contribute genetic material so that the child will have a biological connection to one of their parents. Gay couples may also choose to create separate batches of fertilized eggs using the same female donor so that fertilized eggs from each partner can be transferred to the surrogate.

At Circle of Life Surrogacy, we are happy to accept gay couples as clients.

Women with Certain Medical Conditions

Certain medical conditions can make pregnancies extremely risky for the mother and/or her fetus. Sometimes a medication to treat an illness can make conception difficult or dangerous.

For example, if the mother has a heart condition or cancer, her doctors may strongly advise her from trying to get pregnant. The wife of the second couple I was a surrogate for had a heart condition that required her to take medication that could possibly harm the fetus if she were to get pregnant.

In these instances, it can be heartbreaking for a woman to learn that her medical condition prevents her from carrying her own child, but once the reality starts to sink in, surrogacy is a logical next option. I would advise women who worry that health conditions may affect their pregnancy to consult with their doctor about the possibility of surrogacy.

Infertility

By far the most difficult path to a surrogacy agency is through infertility. Couples may try to get pregnant for years, experience multiple miscarriages, or even pay thousands of dollars for IVF treatments without success on this journey. Conditions like polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), primary ovarian insufficiency (POI), blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids, advanced maternal age, and seemingly a hundred other things can all lead to infertility. And of course, there’s always the chance that doctors cannot figure out why a couple is infertile.

Couples facing infertility have a lot of difficult choices to make. Many times, the woman desperately wants to experience the joy of pregnancy. Should couples keep trying on their own, pony up for IVF, or start considering surrogacy?

There is no right or wrong answer here. Every couple must make this decision based on what they feel in their hearts and preferably in consultation with their doctor. I would strongly urge couples to speak with their reproductive specialist about whether surrogacy may be worth considering. You can also contact us here at Circle of Life Surrogacy for a consultation to learn more about our surrogacy program. Though surrogacy can never replace a traditional pregnancy, many future parents find incredible joy in the process and develop a very special bond with their surrogate as she becomes part of their journey towards a beautiful new life.