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One of the greatest responsibilities of a surrogacy agency is matching the right surrogate to the right couple or individual wishing to have a child. At Circle of Life Surrogacy, we don’t take this responsibility lightly. A surrogate and future parents are bound together in a very personal and unique way. This bond usually lasts far longer than just the nine months of a surrogate’s pregnancy. In fact, I am still very close with both families that I served as a surrogate, and I feel very connected to the two beautiful girls I gave birth to.

With this in mind, I wanted to look a little deeper into how we make a match between surrogates and future parents at Circle of Life Surrogacy.

Surrogate Qualification

First, we only want to offer our future parents the highest quality surrogates. We search for women in stable living and financial situations that see surrogacy as both an opportunity to earn income for their family and a chance to help a family in need. That giving spirit is a must! We also make sure the surrogate is physically healthy, has given birth without complications before, and has at least one child in her care so future parents don’t have to be concerned that she might grow overly attached to their child. Surrogates and their partner consent to a thorough background check, and we also ask our surrogates and their partner to take a psychological test to ensure they have a healthy perspective when starting the surrogacy process.

Future Parent Profile

Next, it’s time to get to know our future parents. Your background, beliefs, and perspectives are all very important in matching you with a surrogate. That’s why we ask our future parents to tell us more about themselves by filling out a profile. We consider this information very seriously. We want you to be a strong personality fit with your surrogate as well as match in your beliefs.

Matching Beliefs

It’s very important that a surrogate and a couple agree on some fundamental questions that may arise during the pregnancy. For example, what happens if five embryos implant? Would you want a reduction performed? What if a test shows that a fetus has a severe genetic disease or there is a health complication? Would you consider termination? These difficult questions are not something you want a surrogate and future parents to disagree on. At Circle of Life Surrogacy, we only match surrogates and future parents that agree on these important questions.

Joint Agreement

Once we propose a match between a surrogate and future parents, we will facilitate a meeting between the parties. If the parents and surrogate live in the same geographic area, we will try to schedule an in-person meeting. In the case of an international surrogacy, we can arrange a video call. It is very important for the potential surrogate and future parents to meet and actually introduce each other. A person may look great on paper, but you never know if you will really connect with someone until you meet them.

This meeting is a chance for the future parents to get to know who the surrogate is, why she has chosen to become a surrogate, and what her current life situation looks like. It is a surrogate’s opportunity to learn more about the parents’ story and get a feel for their personalities. Remember, you will likely be having a lot of contact with each other, so it’s important that both parties feel comfortable with the other and be willing to go on this incredible journey together.

After the meeting is over, both the surrogate and the future parents must approve of each other. If there isn’t 100% agreement, we’ll start the search all over again.

I hope this post has given you some insight into how our matching process works and why it is so important for us to be thorough in our process. If you have any questions about how we match surrogates and parents, write a comment or contact us.

Also, we are actively searching for surrogate candidates and future parents at this time. Please contact us to learn more!